Don't Date Him Girl: John Nicholson

"The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing." 

Albert Einstein

One of my LA girlfriends emailed me the other day with some interesting, but disturbing news:

LAGF: I got a funny story for you, you know that guy you went out with "John"..bald guy, etc..? 

ME:  What guy? Do tell! I'm in bed with the flu.  :( 

LAGF:  Ucky...drink Theraflu. He lives in LA/NY allegedly. Bald guy, you met him on Match?  Nicholson..

ME: Ah, John Nicholson...the actor.  Ya...never "met" him.  Never did like actors....so what's the story?

LAGF:  Well, like a year and a half ago, or two years...I went for a drink with him. This year at Thanksgiving, he comes to our house....with his prego fiancee (also, the fiance is my BF's good friend)...  Sad, because according to her they have been together for like 5 years. I did not say anything to her, but it just made me think....

ME:  Interesting!  I always thought he was sketchy, and that's why I didn't go out of my way to meet him.  He's too desperate to be noticed as an actor....to get laid....to have a GF...etc.  I just checked out his FB page - his GF, Luana, is all over his wall. I noticed that nobody else writes anything on there.  I blocked his posts a while back, simply because I got tired of reading all of his self-promotion shit.  I actually forgot about him.  So, your BF is friends with his GF? And, she said they've been together for 5 years? Ya, wanted me to meet him about 3 years ago, I think.  Maybe less than that.  How does your BF know Luana?

LAGF:  Sweetheart, the girlfriend is Jennifer.  Who is Luana? 

ME:  LOL!  Well then, who is THIS chick who is ALL OVER his Facebook page?!  

LAGF:  That's not who was at Thanksgiving with John!

ME:  OMG...so that's not the chick who showed up?!  What a dirt bag.  Seriously...check out his FB page...she is the only person commenting on there and is totally caught up in him!

LAGF:  I don't care that much to look..but the prego girlfriend is a sweetheart.  Comment, "Congrats on your new baby and engagement."  LOL

ME:  Chick, don't even dare me, because you know I will!  Are you sure we are talking about the same guy?  John Nicholson...dude in the photo?!   I noticed he doesn't have any friends on FB named Jennifer....  Wow...living a total double life.  I knew I didn't like him.

Look, nobody's perfect.  People cheat every day, right?  So why did this bother me so much?  Well, because I've been the one who has had the wool pulled over their eyes and it's the worst feeling in the world.  I was totally humiliated.  People didn't want to get involved or go out of their way to tell me the truth, so in the end,  I was the one who suffered.  It took me a long time to get over it - the humiliation, not the lie.

I felt bad for both Luana and Jennifer, mostly for Jennifer, though, because I later found out she was about two weeks away from giving birth to John's baby.  And, based upon my correspondence with Luana (yes, I emailed her on Facebook) she believed she was the only woman in John's life.

It's a shitty thing to do to someone...lie and toy with their heart strings.  It's despicable - people are selfish and cruel.

I emailed John and told him that I knew he was double dipping in the "engagement" department.  As expected, he skirted the truth and used deflection rather than owning up to his bad behavior.  Shocking, right?

The pregnant girlfriend, Jennifer, and I also emailed back and forth shortly after my LA girlfriend had a telephone conversation with her. It was sad that John, at 47-years old, couldn't own up the truth, and despite being caught he insisted to Jennifer that he didn't even have a Facebook account.  Well, that sucked for him, because I sent Jennifer the Facebook emails John and I had exchanged.  Clearly, John didn't think she deserved to know the truth, but I did.

Had the www.dontdatehimgirl.com website still be working today, I would have put John's sorry mug up on there. It was a great website to warn other women not to date dirt-bags like John.  But, you can no longer post someone's profile on there, so now I have to use my own blog, because you and I both know, this ain't over.  He'll be up to his old dirty antics soon enough, but I'm secretly hoping that having this baby will change him.  One can only hope.



I wonder, if more people had a sense of shame, would our society that we live in today be a better place?

This is why it takes a village.

~Carrie

"Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth."  ~Buddha~